It perplexes me that someone would stir up that much trouble if it doesn't really matter that much anyways and let’s face it, if it had mattered that much to him he wouldn't have disappeared so quickly after he lost.
I for one would live in a car if I had too, just to see Annabelle every week. I would sacrifice everything just to be there for her and let her know I care. The motivations behind this sort of behavior rarely have anything to do with the self interest on the child.
As I'm sure Jeremy was not actually considering Annabelle's self interests just as I'm certain this asshole you are referring too is not considering the self interests of your friend’s children.
As for the laws, if Washington is anything like Arkansas in a standard custody agreement there is a clause stating that you may not move out of state without permission of the non custodial parent, unless you petition the court. But moving 20 miles away inside the same state would not hold up legally in court. The judge would most likely laugh at the stupidity of the dispute.
I would guess that your friend’s lawyer is more concerned with fees than actually solving your friend’s problem. A second opinion is an excellent idea. And as long as your friend is a good parent to her children and providing them with a safe and secure home environment there is no way that the father could possibly take her back to court.
Once a custody decision is made it is final unless something happens where the custodial parent is neglecting or abusing the child. He would have to make some very serious claims for this case to ever see the court.
I highly doubt moving 20 miles counts under the abuse and neglect category. Call me crazy.
Anyway sorry for rambling. Your post made me bitter and angry at stupid men. Particularly because the asshole ex which I have referred to so lovingly in this comment...
He hasn't paid child support in 2 months now. I want my 400 bucks.
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Date: 2004-06-02 11:09 pm (UTC)I for one would live in a car if I had too, just to see Annabelle every week. I would sacrifice everything just to be there for her and let her know I care. The motivations behind this sort of behavior rarely have anything to do with the self interest on the child.
As I'm sure Jeremy was not actually considering Annabelle's self interests just as I'm certain this asshole you are referring too is not considering the self interests of your friend’s children.
As for the laws, if Washington is anything like Arkansas in a standard custody agreement there is a clause stating that you may not move out of state without permission of the non custodial parent, unless you petition the court. But moving 20 miles away inside the same state would not hold up legally in court. The judge would most likely laugh at the stupidity of the dispute.
I would guess that your friend’s lawyer is more concerned with fees than actually solving your friend’s problem. A second opinion is an excellent idea. And as long as your friend is a good parent to her children and providing them with a safe and secure home environment there is no way that the father could possibly take her back to court.
Once a custody decision is made it is final unless something happens where the custodial parent is neglecting or abusing the child. He would have to make some very serious claims for this case to ever see the court.
I highly doubt moving 20 miles counts under the abuse and neglect category. Call me crazy.
Anyway sorry for rambling. Your post made me bitter and angry at stupid men. Particularly because the asshole ex which I have referred to so lovingly in this comment...
He hasn't paid child support in 2 months now. I want my 400 bucks.
Children are expensive and men are stupid.