I feel for your coworker. I went through a similarly hellish situation with my ex-husband.
While we were married he met a girl on the internet who lived in Pennsylvania. Not even 2 months after meeting her online he decided it would be a good idea to abandon me and his then barely 3 year old daughter and go to Pennsylvania to be with this girl he only know via internet.
He was gone aprox. 5 months with no contact whatsoever with his child. And then randomly appeared in Jan wanting custody. We went to court where he spout a bunch of bullshit lies about me to the judge and then before I even got the chance to testify the judge decided we should both get home studies done and psychological evaluations so he'd know the reality of the situation instead of these obviously fabricated lies he was spouting forth.
Anyway, we had to share joint custody of Annabelle from July all the way up to mid December. My daughter hated this and every week when her father would come pick her up she'd cry and throw a holy fit.
From Jan to July when our first court date was he had standard visitation with her. Every Wednesday and every other weekend. She was rather fond of that arrangement. So the new arrangement was very stressful to her. She doesn't like to be away from me for very long at a time because she and I are so close.
Needless to say my daughter ended up in therapy because my ex-husband and his new girly person were saying horrible things about me to my daughter and putting her in a position of choosing. It was a very frustrating situation and it was needlessly hard on her.
But the real reason I am posting all this is to tell you the ending of this 11 month long fiasco.
I of course won custody and not even a week after the trail was over he had already moved back to Pennsylvania.
That’s right, the daughter he dragged through a custody battle for 11 months strait, he abandoned at the drop of a hat.
From December of 2002 all the way till this month he has not called or spoken to his daughter. He has not sent her packages or mail. Even though I live in the same place I lived when he was still here and he knows perfectly well my home address. He has not had any of his allotted standard visitations with her. Until a couple weeks ago when he came back for a brief visit. He was here for almost 2 weeks from what I understand and the real kicker is that after all that time of not seeing his daughter he only spent 4 hours with her.
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my comment was too long so I had to break it up...pt 1
Date: 2004-06-02 11:08 pm (UTC)While we were married he met a girl on the internet who lived in Pennsylvania. Not even 2 months after meeting her online he decided it would be a good idea to abandon me and his then barely 3 year old daughter and go to Pennsylvania to be with this girl he only know via internet.
He was gone aprox. 5 months with no contact whatsoever with his child. And then randomly appeared in Jan wanting custody. We went to court where he spout a bunch of bullshit lies about me to the judge and then before I even got the chance to testify the judge decided we should both get home studies done and psychological evaluations so he'd know the reality of the situation instead of these obviously fabricated lies he was spouting forth.
Anyway, we had to share joint custody of Annabelle from July all the way up to mid December. My daughter hated this and every week when her father would come pick her up she'd cry and throw a holy fit.
From Jan to July when our first court date was he had standard visitation with her. Every Wednesday and every other weekend. She was rather fond of that arrangement. So the new arrangement was very stressful to her. She doesn't like to be away from me for very long at a time because she and I are so close.
Needless to say my daughter ended up in therapy because my ex-husband and his new girly person were saying horrible things about me to my daughter and putting her in a position of choosing. It was a very frustrating situation and it was needlessly hard on her.
But the real reason I am posting all this is to tell you the ending of this 11 month long fiasco.
I of course won custody and not even a week after the trail was over he had already moved back to Pennsylvania.
That’s right, the daughter he dragged through a custody battle for 11 months strait, he abandoned at the drop of a hat.
From December of 2002 all the way till this month he has not called or spoken to his daughter. He has not sent her packages or mail. Even though I live in the same place I lived when he was still here and he knows perfectly well my home address. He has not had any of his allotted standard visitations with her. Until a couple weeks ago when he came back for a brief visit. He was here for almost 2 weeks from what I understand and the real kicker is that after all that time of not seeing his daughter he only spent 4 hours with her.