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sgorny... he just told me that I have to start doing things for myself. Realize, I just had surgery 3 days ago.
I had asked him to come & sit in the bathroom as I took my first full shower & washed my hair, as I wouldn't be able to yell for him if I needed him (since my voice is very soft/no volume now). He was a little miffed - he wanted to go walking (he does about 4-5 miles/day usually, less since I've been home). I asked him to wait, as I had just taken a pain pill, and thought it would be easier to wash up now. Or I would have to wait another 4 hours to bathe (after the next one). He rolled his eyes in exasperation, and said that he had things that he wanted to do, too.
When I asked what, he said that he needed to exercise (he's only exercised 4 of the last 7 days), and that he was going to spend a few hours tonight at the studio recording.
Then he told me that I needed to start doing things for myself. When I asked him what he meant, as I felt I hadn't been asking for that much (he's had plenty of time to himself, even mentioned it the day before), he said that I had asked him to heat up the soup for lunch left over from dinner, and I should have been able to do that myself.
So far, the only things I asked him today were to get me some ice water once, do one load of pajamas, to heat up my soup, and to sit in the bathroom while I showered. I didn't think it was that much, but maybe I'm wrong. I've been getting my own meds, getting the bed ready at night (special pillow set up), keeping myself busy on the TV. I did ask him to switch DVD's for me (since there are only 4 episodes/DVD of Dead Like Me), but I'll stop doing that.
But I guess I'll try not to bother him at all any more. That way, when he goes back to work next Monday, I'll be sure I don't need his help. Since I won't be getting any, anyway. And since he's tired of helping me.
And it's not like he hasn't been staying up late, partying, sleeping in, and generally doing what he wants. I'm only watching TV, something that he doesn't like anyway. He's been cooking up a storm for himself, and acting like each night is a Friday night. So I really don't get where he's coming from.
I guess you have to make sure to rely on yourself, huh?
I had asked him to come & sit in the bathroom as I took my first full shower & washed my hair, as I wouldn't be able to yell for him if I needed him (since my voice is very soft/no volume now). He was a little miffed - he wanted to go walking (he does about 4-5 miles/day usually, less since I've been home). I asked him to wait, as I had just taken a pain pill, and thought it would be easier to wash up now. Or I would have to wait another 4 hours to bathe (after the next one). He rolled his eyes in exasperation, and said that he had things that he wanted to do, too.
When I asked what, he said that he needed to exercise (he's only exercised 4 of the last 7 days), and that he was going to spend a few hours tonight at the studio recording.
Then he told me that I needed to start doing things for myself. When I asked him what he meant, as I felt I hadn't been asking for that much (he's had plenty of time to himself, even mentioned it the day before), he said that I had asked him to heat up the soup for lunch left over from dinner, and I should have been able to do that myself.
So far, the only things I asked him today were to get me some ice water once, do one load of pajamas, to heat up my soup, and to sit in the bathroom while I showered. I didn't think it was that much, but maybe I'm wrong. I've been getting my own meds, getting the bed ready at night (special pillow set up), keeping myself busy on the TV. I did ask him to switch DVD's for me (since there are only 4 episodes/DVD of Dead Like Me), but I'll stop doing that.
But I guess I'll try not to bother him at all any more. That way, when he goes back to work next Monday, I'll be sure I don't need his help. Since I won't be getting any, anyway. And since he's tired of helping me.
And it's not like he hasn't been staying up late, partying, sleeping in, and generally doing what he wants. I'm only watching TV, something that he doesn't like anyway. He's been cooking up a storm for himself, and acting like each night is a Friday night. So I really don't get where he's coming from.
I guess you have to make sure to rely on yourself, huh?
